Good sex is much more about attitude than technique.

Sometimes the only adjustment needed is a few exercises that improve the act of making love. Although the practices below can be done alone, they are best practiced while making love with your partner.

Touch and be Touched.
The body is one big erogenous zone. Don't focus your touching exclusively on the genitals, breasts, or buttocks. Let your hands explore the more neglected areas for a greater impact during lovemaking. The feet, for instance, are highly sensitive to touch. To see how powerful this rule can be, the next time you make love, agree to go 30 minutes without touching the sexual areas of the body.

Encourage Your Partner.
To prevent worrying, 'I'm taking too long' or 'This won't work,' partners should cheer each other on by using positive statements such as, 'I'm enjoying this, take as long as you want.'

Be in the Moment.
While making love, put ALL thoughts out of your head. Instead, focus on the sensations of your five senses. When you catch your mind drifting, bring it back.

Never Compare Lovers.
You've learned your skills from your past, but your partner doesn't need to hear about your schooling. Concentrate on mastering your techniques with your current partner.

Learn more about enhancing your lovemaking:

The Ultimate Seduction
Uncover Your Fantasies
Romantic Sex

- by Nancy Fagan, M.S., Featured Guest Writer

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