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Coming Out Together
I say open that door wide! Be out and proud!!!!
Great article, it makes you want to out yourself. I'm out to a few people in a small rural community and want to come out totally but keep putting it off. This year I will try to keep my nerve up and out myself on Oct. 11.
Brian, you ALWAYS make me think, when I read your articles, THANK YOU!!! As a gay man, myself, I have to agree with you 100%! I too have always had such fantasies as the ones you described, especially for my "straight" contemporaries, still do, in fact. I believe it's their pure masculinity. Of course, I am also extremely attracted to my fellow "gay" contemporaries who are also extremely masculine. That IS what most of us want, after all, isn't it, a man, or a husband?!! :) By the way, Brian, are you available? - gossimer3
I am ready to come out on October 11. It is one thing to open up on the Internet, but it is another to openly acknowledge it- I may be harassed or ridiculed, but I will at least have peace of mind- I am proud to be GAY and those who don't know will on October 11. Thanks for the support. - Jay denton
I do believe that coming out of the closet is the only way for a gay person to be truly happy. However a person must be ready to take this step. It is not something to do because everyone else is. You must be completely comfortable with yourself and the way you want to live your life. I am a 37 year old gay man and to most people I am open about my lifestyle. As well, I recently became a father and my lifestyle made that process very difficult. I did find that my heterosexual friends and allies were able to assist me in this process more so than any gay people I knew. In all actuality, had I not been involved with the heterosexual community as I am then I probably would not have received custody of my six week old baby girl. (She's everything to me and I thank God for having her. I guess what I'm trying to say is Yeah, come on out of the closet but make sure you are ready and it doesn't have to be to the whole world just the people who are important to you. - jrands69
Wow. This is a great idea. I'm not out, or at least only out to so few people I may as well consider myself fully closeted, but I think this is an awesome concept. I work in an environment that makes it difficult to be out and would find it difficult to "expose" myself as gay regardless, but I =AM= of the opinion that sexual orientation is something no one should feel forced to hide. I think the idea of the gay community presenting itself on a single day is outstanding and will hopefully gain a great deal of positive attention. My own life might get a lot more difficult if I come out, but on Oct. 11th, I'm still going to be wearing a LOT of pink. And if anyone asks if I'm gay because of that, I may have to answer "yes!"
Brian, I have been out since 1983 since I had my son John and was divorced. And I have been with two people - one I do not know she is today and my ex in AZ. now I live in Hot Springs Arkansas where they do not see lesbians at all or anything. As they all know here I am a lesbian - I do not plan to let them run my life. If they do not like it they can stay away from me. I’ve been with my new partner a year although we’ve had our up and down and have gone through hell and me in May of this year a stroke not remembering any thing. But the woman I love and her 6 year old daughter - it has been hard to come back. But I am back with a kick. Lesbians, Gays, Transsexuals - we will not let the world run us away. We are here to take a stand and to be heard. We are no longer most of us afraid any more. But I think the only thing we fear is our safety. From other who might want to hurt us for kicks. But that’s the only thing we fear. I will keep coming out to everyone. Thank you for being here. It means lot. - Terri
Maybe the homosexuals feel guilty because they ARE guilty. Would it not be better - if you were concerned for their collective and individual welfare - to at least consult research that demonstrates the absurdity of the oxymoronic title of "gay." These folks are anything but happy. They have a higher suicide rate and higher intestinal disease rate than a cross section of the heterosexual community -this despite having a higher income and educational level. Too, according to a C.D.C. study from the early 90's, the average homosexual has 60 different partners a year. If you have the guts to publish this, please also refer to this particular website www.exodus-international.org/ There is help.
Well said! - jesseboi
I really like this article. It is helpful. I am 20 yr old lesbian. I came out when i was 16. I have no problems in my workplace or in society. I may get disturbed looks or raised eyebrows from time to time, but it doesn't bother me anymore. But do you have any articles or suggestions that would help my mother cope easier. In 4 yrs she has not tried to accept, tolerate, or even talk to me about me sexuality. She makes me feel like I'm nothing, less than human, and inferior to everybody else. She is a homophobic I believe. Can you please help because it is really stressing me out, because we can't really get along? I don't know what else to do!!!! Is there somewhere I can go where other homosexuals provide coping sessions for the parents of young homosexuals? - erotic_lover_20
It's a great idea to come out to the closet. - 33333_C
I loved this article. I agree wholeheartedly that by coming out to everyone we shed more light on the terrible darkness we are ever so slowly leaving behind. I grew up during the 60's and 70's, a time when it wasn't okay to be gay and open, at least not in my neck of the woods. The progress towards equality will only be furthered by showing those around us in our microcosm that we are NOT ASHAMED OF WHO WE ARE! How do we do this? We just are honest. That's all. Be honest in all situations. I liked this article and those that defend our integrity and our right and need for liberty. Out!!! Yes!!! - gentlestrong
I would love the chance to come out to all my family members and friends, but its not just that easy, I've known some of my friends since like kindergarten, and I know they should love me no matter what, but I don’t want to risk that. I'm talking to another girl, and I know that some people already think that they know I’m bi, but I don’t want to risk losing my friends. I do have a really good friend that’s gay, but she mom found out she was hay a year ago and now thinks that she has changed back to straight. Her mom won't allow her to be gay, and I don't want to go through that w/my dad. I want to, but I don't know if I can. I'll try. - lil'devil611
Right on. When I came out it was like a new me. It took a lot of pressure off my shoulders. I felt so relieved. I know it’s hard at first, but once you do it makes all the difference. - jayjay2301
I am a 17 male and I am just coming out of the closet to my friends. I have still not came out to my parents but I plan to soon. This is a awesome article. I did like many at first and tired to make myself str8 but that gets very old. I have been tried with my sexuality since I was about five years old. Talk about being confused at a young age. I just want to tell any gay teens out that, that if you are completely in the closet (except for online) come out and join me and the millions (I believe) of us. I do have one question Brian, should I let my mom meet my boyfriend then tell her I am gay? heehee - TnEmoGuy
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