Is a Valentine card appropriate after one date?

Comment from LOVELYFUN
I liked Brenda's advice. The President's Day idea was cute. So many people are afraid to show that they like the other person or do things that make the other person feel uncomfortable. I met someone for the first time, explaining that I just wanted to be friends. I didn't mind a quick hug, but realized that when he would not let me go, that he and I had different definitions of the word "friendship". I would have appreciated a "friendship" card for President's day far more.

Comment from mshope87
I would have to agree with Brenda. You should let people you are interested in, or that you really like know they are special to you, no matter what the day. Although Valentines Day is a wonderful day to share those feelings ... You know us women, sentimental and always associating special moments with dates and holidays. I know I am guilty of it.

Yes Brenda, I am quite convinced with your advice and believe that what you said is normal. Thanks

Comment from Papataz
Thanks for the advice. I was in the exact same way. I won't be seeing her again till May. We talk on phone a couple of times a week, and E-Mail each other at least every other day. TrueL should send her some flowers. I have always had good luck with flowers.

Comment from cronbeaux
Good advice; it would be inappropriate not to send some-thing.

My advice would be to wait... I guess I feel that it's a bit premature to send a valentine.
Keep her guessing at first and don't let her discover the truth about your feelings until she has really put some effort in.

Comment from bigneil
This just proves it further: A guy should never ask a woman's advice about another woman. What she'll tell him isn't what will work for him, it's what WOULD work IF the guy happened to be her ex (whom Brenda here is still fantasizing about), who broke her heart and dumped her. She wants HIM to come back and give her Godiva. If a virtual stranger does, he's a wuss! Give her a teeny tiny valentine only, like in kindergarten.

Comment from karinapicassoa
Simply my dear friend send her the card, that will tell her how you really feel about her, then when you two meet again Cupid will be able to start working. Good luck mate...

That sounds fine with the card and the chocolate. I would hold off on flowers until we got to know each other better and saw each other more

Comment from nautic19
Do what you would want someone to be doing to you if you were in her shoes and this was some one that you just recently started to see.

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