Should I throw away my current version of ‘the one?’

Dear Brenda,

I have been dating someone for six months. We have dated each other exclusively during this time. My situation is that the she doesn’t want to make a commitment to me or a relationship. I on the other hand want to make a commitment because of what we have. I look forward to a loving lasting relationship. Brenda, what should I do? Stop dating this person who is my everything and begin looking elsewhere for a relationship, or just continue to go with things as they are at the moment?
- Sean

Dear Sean,

You'll probably have to stop dating this person who is not your everything, after a few tries at communication on your part, as this person is not giving you what you want and need. That doesn’t sound like everything to me. Find someone who wants what you want. Yes, it can be done. No, really, I swear! You deserve to get the love you are so willing to give in return. Never forget that and don’t be so ready to sell yourself short. You will only find yourself unhappy and even resentful in the future. Now, when and if you do decide to pursue the ever elusive 100%, you might want to give online dating a shot. If it’s any cause for positive concern, success stories are flying into my inbox at a rapid rate these days.

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