Changing my pattern of attraction

Dear Brenda,

I do not have a love life. I'm single and have been for almost a year now. As hard as I try, I keep meeting nobodies who use me and have no intentions of having a relationship. It seems to be just a sex thing for them. How do I change that pattern of who I am attracting?
- tamara_zm

Dear tamara_zm,

It sounds as if you need to try some patience on for size. It takes two to have sex (at least in your case), and if you hold off on letting these guys hit home runs, you'll weed out the players pretty quick. When you start off dating someone new, you should wait at least a month before jumping into bed with them. And if they're not content to wait, you know what you're dealing with.

Although many of the men you meet are only interested in sex, there are still a few out there who are genuinely seeking meaningful relationships. These are also the ones who know that waiting for something isn't necessarily a bad thing. Tell them you're interested in romance first and before long, you'll find your man.

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