Getting intimate after a long friendship

Dear Brenda,

I have been friends with this young lady for about eleven years and for about eight years we have had a desire for each other. We went out and had a couple of drinks one night and we kissed and had great foreplay. She really got into it and quickly started to withdraw. I want to experience the entire passion with only her. How do I let her know that?
- Confused As Hell

Dear Confused As Hell,

Since the two of you have had a desire for each other for eight years and you've engaged in great foreplay, she should know, or at least suspect, that you are passionate about her. Maybe her sexual experiences have been limited, especially with other men, and she's still inhibited about exploring her desires further. She may be more responsive after some more romantic overtures. Send her flowers, candy, or other small tokens of your affection. Write her a love letter. Communicate your interests that way, so she knows the great foreplay you enjoyed was not strictly meant as a brief indulgence, but the start of something more serious. She may see it as a quick fling of sorts and isn't sure you're serious about exploring a relationship.

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