Dating an Italian Woman

Dear Brenda,

I recently met an Italian girl who has been living in the states for about a year and a half now. She has only gone out with one other American while she's been here which didn't work out. I've only gone out with her on one date thus far, and I felt like it went relatively well. I was absolutely smitten by her.

She actually asked me what the deal was with respect to "the rules" and said that in Italy, there are no rules. Apparently, a friend of hers gave her some book on the subject. When a man and woman are interested in each other, it is made known rather than playing these little "hard to get" games that we do in the States. For that reason, I get the feeling that a more straight-forward direct approach is appropriate here rather than the good old American way.

My question is this....what is the best way for one to approach this situation without appearing to be too much? I did, afterall, meet her over the internet. The feeling I get is that Italian girls expect a more aggressive approach than Americans typically employ.

Does anyone have any directly relevant advice concerning dating European women and, more specifically, those from Italy?
- Michael

Dear Michael,

Michael, just be yourself. If anything is going to work out to be long lasting and healthy, you have to start by being real. Right now you should be finding out what similar interests you both have. Then go do 'em. One thing that might really impress her would be to be her personal "tour guide." I'm sure there are plenty of cool places that you know about that she would like to see. Also, if I know anything about growing up Italian, I can tell you that food = love. So if you cook for her, (or give it your best shot) she will see it (hopefully) as a very endearing gesture. :-)

Ciao bella from your American/Italian dating advisor,

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