How to Tell When Someone is Making a Move on You

Sometimes it's so subtle...

"Here's an example: A girl just said "hi" to me in a parking lot about a month ago. I turned around and did the whole stupid "duhhh, who ME?" thing. She asked me something mild like oh, where was I going. I pointed to where, and sort of waited to see if she said something else, she didn't so I just sort of nodded and walked away. I got about 50 feet, then the fog lifted off my brain, and realized that I had just BuhLOWN it. I turned around and started walking back, but then I realized that now I had nothing to say. So that was the end of that. Sheesh." - Mick

How many times have you missed an opportunity to meet someone new because you misinterpreted their actions? I suppose we all have the tendency these days to be wary of strangers, as we should, or perhaps we suffer from bouts of shyness, which is normal when taken off guard. But sometimes you could be passing a chance to meet a legitimate partner. Luckily there’s still hope.

What you need to do is to pay attention to the world around you. Increasing your awareness leads to increasing possibilities. Many of us walk around preoccupied with thoughts that distract from our present environment. We’re too busy planning our schedule, recapping a conversation, dodging traffic, conjuring up a possible vacation, etc. to be completely aware of life swirling around us.

When you start to pay attention and trust your instincts, you will notice things you’d overlooked before, including friendliness on the part of others. This could be all you need for people to start being receptive to you.

Here are some nonverbal signs that someone is interested in you:
Leaning forward
Tilting head
Facing you
Smiling
Playing with hair or clothes
Picking lint off your jacket
Touching you briefly

Defensive signs:
Arms crossed at chest
Hands in fists pointing
Holding a large knife over your head (just kidding)

Evaluating:
Stroking chin
Holding glasses ear piece in mouth
Squinting

Dominant/Territorial:
Feet up
Leaning against object
Standing or leaning over you

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