I've had it with Golddiggers

Dear Brian,
My name is Wayne. I'm 56 years old and gay and have no one at this point in my life because there are so many gay men looking for a free ride. They are lazy, they don't want to work and make their own way or even work together with someone else to build a future. Take take take! That's all they know how to do, other then lay down once in a while to make sure their rent is paid . (that's really true). Maybe I've looked in the wrong places all these years or I'm trying too hard and settling for less. I'm getting to the point where I don't care any more, but I have so much love to give to someone. All these so called meeting clubs on the Internet are nothing but gold mines for those who run them and that's no good. Every thing in this world today is money money, that's all people care about today. No wonder the world is ready to go to war. Well, maybe you might be able to help me, but I don't think so. Be good and thank you.
- Torlek

Dear Wayne
True, there are a lot of young studs out there eager to trade sex for financial security. For the record, there are also a lot of sugar daddies who are willing to pay for the companionship and sex that a boytoy can provide. You can find plenty of them on the internet, but you can find other men who want more than sex there too, and in a lot of other places. You say you may have been looking in the wrong places but you don't specify exactly where you've looked. It's my belief that you don't have to be "looking" to find someone or to be looking in places where singles gather with the hope of meeting someone.

Pursue your interests and by doing so you'll automatically come into contact with like minded people. If you like to read, spend time at a bookstore or library. Since you're gay, seek out a gay bookstore or the gay section of the library (almost every big library has a section devoted to those interested in gay/lesbian subject matter). If you like movies, you can meet fellow cinema enthusiasts at a film society, perhaps one that offers a gay film festival, and so on.

And don't forget that everyone, gay and straight alike, visit the grocery store. Grab a shopping cart, breathlessly admire the cucumbers, and who knows who you'll meet or what may develop? If you live in or near a big city, chances are there is a neighborhood identified as being gay, territory so defined because it attracts homosexuals. Shop there, play there, even live there if possible, but see and be seen. Before long, you might meet someone who appreciates your ass, and not because you keep your wallet in your back pocket. Yes, there are golddiggers out there, but the shovels are in the hands of men and women of every sexual persuasion.

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