I Love My Wife's Best Girlfriend's Husband!

Dear Brian,
I am a married man and my wife's best girlfriend's husband is a hunky handsome man. Being in the closet I would like to approach him but am too scared if my secret is let out. In Kenya homosexuality is not accepted.
- Jadu

Dear Jadu,
The fact that homosexuality is not accepted in Kenya is almost beside the point.  The odds are that your wife and her best friend would be even less accepting of your sexual interest in the friend's husband.  We can't always get what we want, and what you want could threaten your marriage and your wife's friendship.  Unless the hunky, handsome husband indicates an interest in homosexual relations with you, or you know for a fact that everyone who would be affected by this situation is open-minded enough to accept your sudden emergence from the closet, it's best to lay off.  If you're so hot for the woman's hubby that you just can't put him out of your mind, fantasize all you want about him and masturbate, but let it stop there.

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