Am I Gay?  Am I Straight?

Dear Brian,
I am very confused about myself and also don't know what to do. I am already 36 years old and my parents keep asking me when am I going to get a girlfriend to start a family. Well, I tried to date girls but I could not find any interest with them, and even for a girl I normally prefer pretty ones than those with pimples on their face. But I get along with guys very easily and I normally like those handsome, hunky, muscular or gym fit guys, and especially those Caucasian guys. I have kisses, hug, and oral sex with guys but not anal sex, but I never has any of this with any girls. Am I a gay or bi ? During my teenage years, I usually had wet dreams with guys but now as I grow older, I seldom had any of these dreams. What am I going to do now ? Get a girlfriend and get married, or continue to have fun with guys? Please advise and help me. Thanks!
- Alvin

Dear Alvin,
A man can be gay and still recognize a girl as pretty. But if you have no sexual interest in females, but do enjoy kisses, hugs, and oral sex with men, all I can say is welcome to the club.  Unless you want a girlfriend and can satisfy her emotional and sexual needs, you should forget about marriage.  You are 36 years old and, from the sound of it, you've only had sex with men.  At that age, even a man who hasn't had sex with men but is still a virgin to women is either gay, a eunuch, paralyzed by shyness, or something more serious.  You, however, are gay!  The absence of wet dreams about men is insignificant unless they've been replaced with wet dreams about women.  My advice?  Accept your homosexuality and get on with your life.

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