How to Approach the Subject of Sex

Dear Brian,
There's this guy that I'm seeing. I am gay and I haven't had sex with him since we've met. I tried to let him know that I would love to have sex with him, but I don't know how. Please, could you assist me with this? Also I don't know if I can trust him or not, but he says that I can trust him. Thanks.
- Lonelyheart

Dear Lonelyheart,
If you've been dating the guy for awhile, and the relationship is a romantic one, he should be as interested in you as you are in him. If he hasn't initiated sex, he may be shy or worried about your reaction. Take matters into your own hands. Take advantage of every opportunity to show physical affection. Caress his knee, hug him, hold hands, kiss him whenever and wherever he'll let you. Let him know you're hungry for sex with him. He should let his guard down eventually, and before you know it, you'll be making sweet, glorious love. If not, it's time to start seeing someone else.

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