Curious about trying sex with a guy

Dear Brian,
I am a 48 yr old male. ALL my life I have been straight. I love making love to a woman, but a woman can 't make me have an orgasm. I am curious about trying sex with a guy. I really don't think I would like being a bottom, but I wonder if a guy or shemale could do what a woman can. I don't know if being uncut has anything to do with it or not. The only way I can cum is with masturbation. I always said I got cheated in life. I wonder if I could be gay or not? I consider myself bi-curious because it's something I've never tried. Any advice?
- B C

Dear B C,
Since you love making love to a woman, you don't sound gay, only frustrated that a woman can't bring you to orgasm and open to the possibility of trying something new. Your description of yourself as bi-curious seems to hit the right note. Since you can't have an orgasm with a woman in the customary way, you might try anal sex. If you can't find a woman who'll let you take her from the rear, you can always find a gay man eager to be penetrated by your penis. Anal sex may be the answer to your inability to have an orgasm. An anus is tighter than a woman's vagina, or so I've been told. (I must make it clear that what I know about sex with women is based on what I've heard, not on what I've done. My sex life has been exclusively homosexual). Whatever the reason for your inability to reach orgasm with a woman, I don't think being uncut has much to do with it. Men who haven't been circumcised are said to be more sensitive to stimulation than their cut counterparts, and, therefore, able to cum more easily. Of course, maybe you are gay or bi-sexual. If you want to experiment, I think you should. Go to some gay bars or seek a man right here at Date.com. Your disinterest in being a bottom is an advantage. Among gay men, bottoms outnumber masculine tops by at least 2 to 1 (I'm a bottom myself). If anything, that's a conservative estimate. You shouldn't have any trouble finding a bottom willing to turn his anus (and his mouth) to the challenge of giving you the orgasm you deserve to experience with something other than your hand.

She-males are also available and easy to find if you look for them. And be aware that your experience with women should be a feather in your cap. She-males, as well as gay bottoms, will likely appreciate that you've been with women since it will add to your image of virility. Good luck and happy hunting!

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