Starting fresh - Where Do I Begin?

Dear Brian,
I am 32-years-old and I want to explore and have a relationship with a man. He has to be young and a bit patient because I do not know what to do. This is the first time I dare to do something like this. I am a bit afraid to get hurt or to get involved with the wrong person. Of course, that's always a risk. I want your advice. Where do I start? I am really new to everything. For 10 years I worked as a volunteer helping people and I was dedicated to do that 24/7. I was following total celibacy. Because of all of the above, I was practically disconnected from the civilized world. I am not stupid. I speak 5 languages and can translate 7. My IQ is part of the upper 2% of the population, but I'm very social, active, and sports oriented. Anyway thanks for your help.
- Manuel

Dear Manuel,
Start right here at Date.com. Put together a profile at our service for the gay community. Once you've done that, search the profiles of other men. When you see someone you like, contact him. But don't limit your manhunt to cyberspace. Get out to where the guys are, and that doesn't only mean gay bars. Today, you can find a gay version of almost anything including social groups for nature lovers, hikers, cyclists, bird-watchers, you name it. Don't let your lack of experience inhibit you. Different men will have different reactions to your recent celibacy. Some may not want to get involved with a man they believe will need tutoring in sexual matters, but sexual matters are likely all they're interested in anyway. Others will be eager to show you the ropes. Plus, your lack of experience means you haven't picked up any sexually transmitted diseases. Don't let a fear of being hurt hold you back. Life is full of risks. If we truly want to live, we have to gamble a little.

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