Did I jump into this relationship too early?

Dear Brian,
I have been seeing this one guy for 7 months now and all of a sudden he just stopped calling me and not talking to me. I am unsure of the relationship now. I have met some other guys that are seriously interested in me and not having officially broken off with this first guy I am not sure what I should do. I feel real comfortable with this guy, but I am now thinking I jumped into the relationship too early. He came out of a five year relationship before he met me and things between him and I were great until things got serious and now I am left here by myself not knowing what to think about it all. A little help and guidance here would be a real big help, or a shove in the right direction would suffice. Thanks.
- Unsure and Confused

Dear Unsure and Confused,
How long has it been since this guy stopped communicating with you? The longer he remains incommunicado, the less likely there's a chance of getting this relationship back on track. He seems to have jumped off the rails already. Having started a relationship with you after a five year relationship with someone else, he may be afraid of getting too serious again. I think you have two options: call him and insist that he let you know where you stand or forget about him and take advantage of the other opportunities you have available. If you do call him and he doesn't answer - literally by not picking up the phone, or by simply refusing to be pinned down - I would consider the relationship over and I would move on.

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