Worlds Apart

Dear Brian,
Thanks a lot for this service. My question is that I love older people who are more than 50 plus years of age only, although I am 34 now. Right now, I am deeply in love with an American 63 year old man and he is in love with me too. I am gay and don't like women. I wish to stay with him in the USA for the rest of my life. But due to strict laws, it is very tough to emigrate there now. I am really frustrated and often feel suicidal because of it. Give me a suggestion on what to do in the future. Waiting for your reply and thanking you.
- P.K. Deka

Dear P.K. Deka,
First of all, forget about suicide. No problem is ever serious enough to warrant that irreversible "solution." And how serious is your relationship with the 63 year-old American? Have you actually met the man face-to-face, or is this strictly a long-distance relationship? If the two of you have met and are equally in love, ask him if he would consider coming to live in India with you, if not permanently than at least until you meet the requirements to emigrate to the U.S. If that's out of the question, ask yourself how committed you are to him and vice versa. A 34 year-old who prefers men over 50 shouldn't have any problem attracting suitors. You might even be said to have a corner on the market, since too many people, gay and straight, only want someone younger.

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