Why aren't people interested in me?

Dear Brian,
I have been alone and out of the dating scene for about 6 years. I have just recently started back in on the personals, but am having some extreme issues that I do not really understand nor can I answer them.
 
For example, I met this really cute guy from Albuquerque and we were getting along and everything, and all of a sudden he disappears. I thought there was something there.
 
There's more, but I don't really want to go into detail. My main issue is: Why do people simply not seem interested in me? I'm lovable, and attractive, and interesting. In my opinion, of course.
 - Lonely and Depressed

Dear Lonely and Depressed,
The problem may have less to do with you than with other men. Men who "suddenly disappear" are not too unusual. Ask any gay guy or any woman, for that matter. The cute guy from Alburquerque sounds like a typical commitment phobe who flees when a relationship starts to look too serious. Having been out of the dating scene for so long may have also made you too serious, too eager to lay it on the line too fast with your desires for something long term. If that's so, ease up a bit. When you meet a man, enjoy each date for what it is without seeming too eager for commitment. Keep things light, and take things slow. And keep looking. Love takes time.

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