What did I do wrong?

Dear Brian,
I'm a gay man who just started to see this guy for almost 2 weeks. I think he is an awesome person. We hit it off great and have plenty of dreams we want to achieve and goals we want to turn into reality. He's a very busy guy, trying to put his life together, and I totally understand that. We kept on seeing each other almost every other day until one night we sat on a bench and I told him what I wanted in general from a guy and my expectations. Then all of the sudden things changed. Now he is not calling me as he use to and things are just different. What did I do wrong? Thank You.
- AngelisNY

Dear AngelisNY,
Your mistake may have been stating your wants and needs too soon in the relationship. If you've only been seeing the guy for two weeks (and only every other day at that), he may feel that he's still getting to know you and not sure if this relationship will heat up or cool off. By stating your expectations, you might have scared him, leading him to think you wanted more of a commitment than he's prepared to make after only two weeks. Then again, it's entirely possible that your expectations do not match his, and he decided you're not the man for him, or that he's not the man for you.

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