Bi Curiosity

Dear Brian,
All my life I've been very happily involved with women. I really enjoy all aspects of having sex with women. However for the last few years I've become curious about what it was like for these women to go down on me. Kinda why some of them liked it and some didn't. My curiosity has been getting stronger and now I would like to find a bi married man who would be willing to let me have oral sex with him to satisfy this curiosity.

My question is. How do I go about finding this man that would understand that I'm not looking for a relationship or anything, and yet would be willing to do this? The thing is I want someone clean and D/D free so I can have oral sex without a condom. I mean if all I'm going to find out is what latex feels and tastes like, I might as well put a condom on my thumb and suck my thumb. And I don't think that's going to tell me anything. Can you give me some advise, other than forget it, or some tips on how to go about this? I would appreciate it.
- Bi-curious Bob

Dear Bi-curious Bob,
Believe it or not, there are quite a few straight men who are curious about sex from the other side of the zipper, and there are few men who don't like being attended to orally, so you shouldn't have a difficult time finding a willing partner. You probably are not eager to share your interest with the men you already know, so your best bet would be to place an ad stating your interests. You could do that at Date.com. If you find no interest there, your next best bet would be to take out a classified ad in your local alternative newspaper (assuming you live in a city large enough to support one). Those publications tend to devote a lot of print space to politics and the arts, but few of them could survive without the lucrative, and often lurid, advertising that appears in their back pages.

There are even dating sites that cater exclusively to bi-curious folk like yourself. Just type "bi-curious dating" into a search engine, and you'll find them. One warning, though: although I don't think you'd have any difficulty finding a man willing to let you suck him off, you would certainly attract a variety of types, not necessarily the bi married man you seek, although they may claim to be otherwise. It's also difficult to know for sure what his HIV status would be. One last suggestion: have you ever attempted sucking yourself? Some men are able to do just that. It helps if one is an athlete, but getting that meat in one's mouth could be just the incentive one needs to flatten a stomach.

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