How Long Can It Last?

Dear Brian,
I am 22 years old and currently in a relationship with my partner who is older than me. We are in love and fully committed to each other. So far everything seems so good, but sometimes I just think and wonder, how long could it last??? I am afraid that either me or my partner may lose the love sparkling between us. I couldn't imagine what would happen next? Could you give me some important tips about how to survive a long term relationship? Our relationship is currently in its sixth month. Thank you so much for your help.
- Matthew102

Dear Matthew102,
It sounds like you’re someone who regards the glass as half-empty rather than half-full. You are anticipating failure even as you taste the fruits of success. If you and your older partner are in love and committed to each other, your relationship has a solid foundation. Could things change? Well, yes, they could. One of you could become bored with the other. The best way to avoid that is to keep your relationship stimulating. Never take your partner for granted. Shower him with affection, and don’t forget to say "I love you." The key is to keep your relationship stimulating, so it will grow. If you share each other’s interests, that’s a good sign that you’ll both stick around for the long haul. Whenever possible, do things as a couple but also have room to let yourself and your partner breathe. Love is something we may fall into, but to stay in love requires more effort. Never forget what made you fall for your partner in the first place and cherish whatever qualities tha t attracted you to him originally. Most important, avoid worrying about what may happen if your relationship ends. That could be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Think positive and focus on the present.

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