Too Much Control?

Dear Brian,
My ex and I, Otis, had just broken up. He always got on me about my attitude. He said that was the reason he had broken up with me. He has a bit of a control problem. I had to tell him about himself quite often. I want to know if you can give me any advice on what it is that could have possibly have gone wrong? But on the same note as my attitude (I always snapped on people every time for saying anything or just touching me for no reason), he has an attitude worse than mine. He is a bit of a hypocrite. I don't like someone telling me what I can and can’t do, but they turn around and do the complete opposite. That is why we were always arguing at least once or twice a week. We had decided, together, to break it off and go our separate ways. We tried the friendship thing, but that only lasted about a month and a half. Tell me what it is that you think. Thank You.
- Maurice

Dear Maurice,
Incompatibility may be the culprit here. You and Otis may be so much alike that you simply can’t be together without driving each other crazy. He has a control problem, but if you always have to "tell him about himself" and snap when someone says something you don’t like, it seems you have a control problem of your own. A relationship between two such domineering people isn’t likely to last. I think you should probably just call it a day and find someone else. Otis should, too.

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